My son is 23, just returned from 8 months as a Fulbright/MTV scholar in Mali, and is going on to grad school. He graduated from the IB program here in high school, and the top of his class at UC Berkeley. His girlfriend, also a Haas Scholar, has a 4 yr old kid (a mistake her freshman year, her family supported her to succeed) is headed to a MFA program at UCLA. My son is a great step parent, and they come and visit our home frequently.

Interestingly enough, they are disgusted by the Bahá’ís. They ran into many at school and found them to use his descriptors "weird, arrogant, insular, overwhelmingly Persian, conservative... and out of touch”.

When I got my letter* they all drove over from the Bay Area to hang with me that evening... if that is not family, I don't know what it is. They knew how much I love this Faith and even tho it’s not their path, they came to support me.

Interestingly enough, she filmed and produced our wedding video, and my son was our best man... he's perfectly OK with being around gay folks, and doesn't find it a problem. He knows what he is and enjoys diversity.

Interestingly my son’s birth mother also is disgusted by the Bahá’ís for a number of reasons, chiefly their homophobia. She never joined when we were married as she found us nutty and weird. She remains a Methodist.

Gay parents tend to produce higher achiever kids, because if they are parents, its because they really want to be... either because they adopted, or because of threats of losing thir kids when they came out.

Daniel Orey

Sacramento, California

* http://revolked2.blogspot.com/2009/05/lets-start-with-consultign-about-my.html

http://bahai-library.com/letters/gays.html